How do I address feuding family members prior to our vow renewal?

Q. How do I address feuding family members prior to our vow renewal?
A. If it’s important to the two of you to have all of your family present at your vow renewal, you will want to sit down and talk to each of the feuding family members directly. Ask them to put aside their differences and personal battles for one day: your vow renewal. Be upfront about how important this day is to you and how important it is to you to have everyone there. Chances are if you stay calm and your requests are reasonable, they will listen to and consider your request.

Plan on assigned seating and keep them far apart on the seating chart. Recruit other family members to be on the lookout for overdrinking or brewing confrontations and to help handle any issues if needed.

There’s no guarantee that they will get over their issues and attend. While it may be disheartening, it’s best to accept their choice and enjoy your vow renewal without them.